Save Me from Jake

Dear cupids,


  I represent a majority of single mothers whose rights and privileges have been trampled upon. I’m not afraid to say that I’m a proud single mother. Yes, my baby’s father and I were good friends before we became lovers. When the outcome of what we shared became a human being, he threatened me to abort my baby. I hadn’t done it in my entire life, even though I never planned for it.

Jacob neglected me and my baby without any form of compunction or compassion. Jake hurt me and my son so greatly. My son and I managed what we had. Thank goodness, he’s a brilliant son. I sold sachet water and peanuts to raise my child. Now, he’s won scholarship award to study abroad after his primary school education. I’m set to marry at 39, now my son’s father saw my wedding invitation on social media and he wants to have my baby back to himself. Where in the world does that happen?

As a matter of fact, I want to travel overseas with my baby once I marry my heartthrob. Jake is an obstacle. He would come to my husband, disturb the peace out of my life. My fiancé is isn’t finding funny anymore, the worse part of it all is that my son doesn’t even know him as his father. I won’t twell him either. Yes!  What manner of man would reject his scion only to come back for him/her when the going is good? I want to know what I can do to stop Jake from visiting me. I don’t want him to lay claim on my son. After all, he never cared about him.

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ARE YOU HAVING AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR?

If anybody asks you this question, you may go angry or livid because it sounds so insulting. Why? You are never the type of person that would have an affair outside your relationship/marriage. Well, that is because you do not know what an emotional affair is.
Emotional affair does not involve sex. It happens to people who are in courtship or engaged or married but very fond of somebody else who is not their spouse but if care is not taken and brake applied, it can lead to full blown sexual affair.
Emotional affair does not only happen to people in bad, unhappy marriages. It can happen to happy couples, morally sound people and deeply spiritual individuals who love God with all their hearts and hate sin. It can even happen to great men and women of God. How then do they fall into emotional affair?
Emotional affair is not easy to detect at the beginning. It all starts as plain, platonic friendship with the opposite sex whom you exchange
ideas with and find admirable -that's all. The friend can be a colleague at work, a fellow worker at church, a course mate, the secretary to the boss at the office or the next door neighbour. They
are someone you find attractive and enjoy talking to. If you treat them like you treat any normal friends with no strings attatched, there is no
problem but if you are SECRETLY fond of them, there is a BIG PROBLEM.
Emotional affair starts rearing its ugly head if you are always eager to see them, anxious to hear from them and you feel sad if a day passes without getting in touch with them. It escalates when you begin sharing deep personal issues, especially
relational or marital problems and you find their words very soothing -it's like Valium, you can't sleep without it. It progresses when there is subtle flirty compliments (e.g. "Each time I see you, I always feel like hugging you and staying there forever" or
"Can I give you a peck please?"), sweet names calling and you never do anything to stop them infact, you love it and always look forward to hearing more from them. You idolize them while comparing them with your spouse who always
falls short. You see them as your comforter, healer and the only one who UNDERSTANDS you.
You begin to keep your conversations with them a secret from your spouse and deny every accusation of having any affair with them (since you are not having sex).
You have chemistry for them and always sexually charged when thinking about them or talking to them. Now, PULL A BREAK!!!
You are threading on a very dangerous path while consoling yourself that you are not having sex. Most people, especially good people, do not plan cheating or adultery, it "just" happened when all red flags are ignored.
Face the fact that your relationship or marriage is sick that is why you are attracted to someone else and fix the problem. If you do not deal with your relationship or marital issues, you will keep pursuing them and end up sleeping with them and that is the beginning of the end of your relationship or marriage.
Pull back from that person and avoid discussing anything personal with them henceforth.
Come clean to your spouse and let them know you are getting attracted to someone else and you need their help. (You don't need to give them the full detail of your attraction).
Stop all chats, be very polite with their calls or ignore their calls altogether if you get tempted to go back. Understand why you fell into emotional affair and take precautions lest you fall into another one. Know that you are human and it is very possible to feel attracted towards the opposite sex, just don't pursue your object of attraction. Set boundaries. Do not entertain ungodly relationships.
Have a full understanding of emotional affair and protect your heart from being tempted.
Remember the bible says: "Let he that thinketh he standeth, take heed, lest he fall." 1Cor 10:12. Take charge of your life, do not leave your relationships to chance.
*To promote Godliness and preserve families which is God's institution, share with all in your contact. You might be saving a Marriage or relationship from collapsing. This applies to married and single individuals both male and female. To tell you the truth this is how INFIDELITY starts...so be warned

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I attempted suicide but for the fear of rendering my children fatherless.

Hello,

It’s been two months since my wife left me but it seems like yesterday. My children, a beautiful daughter and a son, live with me with a living picture of their mother on their faces. Twice have I attempted suicide but for the fear of rendering my children fatherless.

Cynthia and I became lovers when she was in the university, we got so intimate that we decided to tie the knot in less than four months. Her father had asked me to allow her finish conclude her BSc, and acquire her MSc before we thinking of marrying each other. We insisted because of the love we had for each other. So her father and I struck a deal—I would assume the responsibility of footing the bills of her education up to MSc.

Cynthia is a brilliant lady.  After bagging her BSc from a private university, we both decided to secure a visa for her to go and study abroad. She went overseas after obtaining her National Youth Service Corps certificate. She’d call me, ask of the children and tell me not to worry. She was a caring mother, partner and wife.

Things started getting awry when she finished her educational programme. I sent her several messages telling her how the kids were faring without her. She stopped calling, texting spontaneously, and even asking of the children. I paid the bills, I worked and sent money from Nigeria. Cynthia works but I only discovered that four months ago. She doesn’t spend her own hard currency on her education, she waited for me to send her money. I sent her a WhatsApp message asking her to come back to Nigeria since she has finished schooling. Each time I reminded her of her duties as a mother, she would give me one excuse or the other. The children were already yearning for motherly presence. Our girl needs her at this point of her life.

One day, I called Cynthia in the middle of the night (Nigerian time) and a man answered the call. I requested to speak with Cynthia and the next thing I heard was honey someone needs to talk to you on phone. Cynthia took the phone and ended the call almost immediately. I called her back repeated but Cynthia refused to take my calls. I called her back the following day and she denied ever allowing a man answer her call. I was shocked but I kept my cool. Two weeks later, the man called me with Cynthia’s phone requesting to know who the hell I am because I had bombarded Cynthia’s phone with messages to the extent that the young man became irritated and aroused to ask questions. I told him I was Cynthia’s husband and the rest was a furious altercation between me and the young man. The young man called me a Nigerian scammer. He called me all sorts of names.

Cynthia didn’t call me again, she blocked my number after that day. Life was a living hell for me. I love Cynthia and I know I do.  I took my phone and called her two days later, my number couldn’t get through to her, I changed my phone number and called her. She answered the call without a word, and I started begging her to forgive me. Cynthia refused to forgive, so I reported the case to her parents. In fact, this was where the line was drawn. It was the end of the road for whatever Cynthia and I shared. She was a spoilt child growing up. So, with this western experience of hers, she couldn’t be stopped.

Two weeks ago, Cynthia sent me a message, asking me to move on with my life; take care of our children because she’s decided to marry her newly found lover—Richy .Please, what do I do? My life is in shambles. I need help. Save me, save my children from becoming fatherless.

Tobi.

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How to Break Out of Depression after Heartbreak

Merriam-Webster’s dictionary describes depression as a psychoneurotic or psychotic disorder marked especially by sadness, inactivity, difficulty in thinking and concentration, a significant increase or decrease in appetite and time spent sleeping, feelings of dejection and hopelessness, and sometimes suicidal tendencies. In the same vein, heartbreak is defined as crushing grief, anguish, or distress. There is abundantly a feeling of inadequacy after serial heartbreaks. Heartbreak is a leading cause of depression. It’s a feeling of disappointment, insignificance, rejection and dejection. It’s like mourning oneself. After building hopes and aspirations, after sharing lifetime goals with a partner with hopes that he/she will be in the bigger picture, all of a sudden, everything you shared is now a dime’s worth of energy and time. Looking back, you regret ever meeting the heartbreaker.

This article presents simple ways of break out of depression:

1.    Break up with yourself.

Yes, I know you must be wondering by now. Breaking up with yourself is the simplest way of getting healed. At this point, after a serious heartbreak, you’ve sunk into self-pity, you’re writing your regrets on pieces of paper whether in your mind or physically, you’ve seen yourself as a mistake. Yes! Blame it on yourself. It is part of the healing process. After blaming it on yourself, move on from yourself. Remove pity. Do not pity yourself. Break out and break away from yourself and re-engage in those things that give you joy. Be careful, you’re not doing this to further put yourself in danger. Let me quickly note that at this point, some people resort to smoking, drinking, having reckless sex, excessive clubbing and unrestrained spending. No, it is a time of assessment. Evaluate yourself. Yes, you can have fun but you don’t want to overdo it, do you? After all, the greatest revenge in life is success. You want to succeed, don’t you? Therefore, you do not want to be a good boy/girl turned bad. It’s not the end of your life.

2.    Don’t stay alone

This has been overemphasized by several psychologists. Staying in isolation is dangerous at this time. Remember, you have just broken up with yourself. It is important that you mingle with others. This will make you forget about a whole lot of things. People draw energy from people, therefore, you can draw energy from positive people. These days it is called networking. When you network, you share business contacts, ideas, knowledge and wise counsel. Please, be careful not to follow the counsel of one who has been through heartbreaks and hasn’t been healed, he/she is likely to advise you negatively.

3.    Meet people who appreciate you

This is not to say you should go all around the world seeking validation, no. First of all, you know you’re unique. You may not be tall, beautiful, handsome or rich, but there’s something unique about you. That quality of uniqueness, someone needs it. Someone out there needs a unique character that you possess. I remember, being a short man, my ex was five feet and ten inches tall, when she broke up with me and went on to date taller men, I felt inadequate. She didn’t break up with me because of my height, I later realized. She broke up with me because her mother didn’t like a man from another tribe. Nonetheless, after her, I met several better ladies who appreciated me the way I am because of my uniqueness.

4.    Kill your flashbacks and past imaginations

This is certainly a broad topic, I will write an article on how to kill ugly flashbacks and imaginations based on popular demand by my readers. However, I will touch on it. Flashbacks and imaginations creep into the mind after every heartbreak. In fact, they are the direct reasons people contemplate suicide. Sometimes, they don’t even leave your mind. Therefore, you must kill them. One of the fastest ways I discovered is killing imaginations with imaginations and killing flashbacks with flashbacks. If you could imagine how he or she could be so sweet, you could also imagine that moment he or she was a beast. Everyone has a bad part. If you may want to flashback to that point where he brought a new woman home, where he slapped you because of her; where she pulled over to show you her new boyfriend and they drove past, splashing dirty water on you; you can also remember that man/lady would made you feel special.

5.    Start afresh

Don’t be too scared to start afresh. This is where a lot of people get it wrong. Heartbreak shouldn’t stop you from loving. Make that mistake but make it count. Start afresh, meet new people. Don’t stay away from the art of finding love for a long time, you don’t want look like a novice, do you? I bet you don’t. Therefore, starting afresh avails you the opportunity to meet more people, know how they think and be well informed and acquainted with the necessary skills to handle a promising relationship that will lead to marriage.

Moses Okere

©2018.

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I'm Sorry I Rejected You, Son. Forgive Me.

Dear Cupids,
  I’m from Saginaw, Michigan. I came across your blog, so I felt it’s the right place to seek advice.

I’m going to keep it simple. At fifteen I was raped. It was a serial rapist who raped me. The pain, trauma, and agony that followed were horrible. Jake was sent to prison after a Trial Judge confirmed him a serial rapist.

I discovered I was pregnant two months after I was raped. I almost died by the knowledge of my pregnancy. To think that a serial rapist could get me pregnant was unthinkable. Replaying the event of my rape in my mind was suicidal. Now, the greatest of all pains arose when I realized I was pregnant.

After I delivered the child. The disgust I had for my baby’s father was visited upon him. I rejected him, he was black, still black; his father is. I didn’t want to associate myself with a black baby, much less one from a black serial rapist. I donated my baby to Child Care. I was paying child support. This I did grudgingly.

I started loving Mickey when he was 14. He was the brightest in high school. His teachers taught him some morals I never taught him as a child. At first, each time I was invited, I didn’t honor their invites. One day, I decided to visit the school and I was shown some tremendous things Mickey had done. Poor boy, he didn’t even know his mother too well. His teacher told me he had been asking questions about how his parents aren’t together.  That day, I told Mickey everything he needed to know about how he was born. Mickey now hates me.

Mickey is now a footballer(American footballer). He’s going to be successful. He’s 28. I want my baby back. I love him. I’ve forgiven his father. I know he thinks am a racist but it’s not totally my fault. His father made me who I was. I’m  totally changed person now. How can I make him know I love him as my son. I want to be his family. I know I wasn’t there for him, I tried 14 years ago, but he didn’t accept me. I can’t bear it anymore. What can I do to make him forgive me?

Rosie.
The Cupids,
© 2018
Email us: thecupidshaven@gmail.com

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I SLAPPED MY GIRLFRIEND AND LANDED IN JAIL

                                  




Dear cupids,



I'll like to keep this simple,I slapped my girlfriend who's a lawyer for the first time, and I was sent to jail. Now, my parents want me to marry her. We stay in the US,and attended the same school in the US. Her parents and mine are friends. They've been friends since they were in secondary school.

My mother is enthusiastic about our(my girlfriend and I) intended marriage. As we speak, my girlfriend, now my ex, knows I do not want to speak of anything called marriage with her after that event. But my mom needs a grandchild. Though we jointly haven't mentioned to our parents what transpired between us, our parents are expecting us to come back home and be married in December. The date has been fixed.

What do I do? How do I tell my parents I don't like Jumoke?  I want to be left alone to make my choice. Please tell me what to do?  Our parents run joint venture company.


Jide


Some Selected Commentaries :

Yes it' seems difficult but that's d right thing to do. How can they fix wedding date? Is there something else the guy is not telling us. Maybe the parents control his life. This is the time to stand your ground cos you won't live with your parents when you get married.--OLUSHOLA

Hmm!
You just have to spew. Tell your both parents what transpired between you too, don't wait till you come home in other not to crush their hopes that's in its royal highness already😄. If possible make a joint venture skype call😁 or WhatsApp group video call. In other not to be biased, she will have the opportunity to either lie to your face or accept her actions. Either way stand your ground and not compromise your future by continuing a relationship that has already ended.✌---YOMI

 If she truly loves him, she won't send him to jail. She should have controlled her anger.That's why we should have self-control--DAMILOLA

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I'm Dating the Dead:Beautiful Love Turns Sour(My Story)

Hello there,

 Permit me to start this way, I believe life’s unfair. Beautiful people don’t last. I’m suffering from emotional attachment, not one that has to do with the living but the dead. Trying to fathom why I can’t seem to move appears a hard nut to crack. Olumide and I were so much in love. He was the smartest man I have ever had. We had our promises, our love was a promising one. Olumide was my family at school.

 It was my first year at school, I was exhausted after a very long queue at the Physical Clearance Office, a young man, Engineering student, showed up offering to help me. At first, it was annoying but on raising my head, I saw a countenance that stole my smile. I carefully handed my articles to him. He held my hand and we walked towards the registrar’s office. I thought for a moment he has a friend, family or someone that could help facilitate my clearance. Classes had already started and I was already missing out. Twenty minutes later, Olu got a call and it was a moment of wild happiness for me. After a long wait, I was going to be cleared at long last. I submitted all my documents and receipts of payment for surveillance and scrutiny. Afterwards, I took back my original documents and receipts, leaving the photocopies.

It took only one week for me to accept Olumide as my boyfriend. I loved him already. In fact, I was already dating him unknown to him but I just wanted him to go through the rigours of wooing a lady. In less than one week, we made love. Olumide was cool, calm and collected. His social life was 100%, he also didn’t joke with his academics. Virtually all the club houses close to our school knew us. Olumide had a very comfortable car as a student, money wasn’t a problem. He was a darling.

Trouble started when I was in my third year, I had problems paying my rent, so I had to move in with Olumide. This was when I started noticing things I never could have envisaged. Well, I let them slide and concentrated on my love for him as well as my academics. Although, I once in a while asked him of some irresponsible behaviours I had seen him display, I never wanted to lose him. I saw some friends who came around, I didn’t like those folks, but I just minded my own business. At times, they come at nights to take him away, he only tells me,”baby, I’m going to night class with my friends”; but we used to go together. Well, I just had to be strong, he’s probably preparing me for the time when he’ll no longer be in school.

All the while, I wasn’t suspecting anything so severe until I heard a bang on the door at night. Olumide, started up as if in readiness for a battle, and for the first time in my life, I saw Olumide with an AK47, I was alarmed. I shuddered. I was stuck between a frightful shout and a suppressed sound. Deep muteness surrounded my shriek. I didn’t know what was going on. Olumide went straight into the bathroom. “Open the door, Olumide, you’re surrounded. You can run but you can’t hide!” Those were the words I heard. I urinated on my body. I was stuck. Olumide killed three guys before my very eyes. The fourth guy was the last that took Olumide down. Before me, Olu died. He never gave me the simplest or littlest idea he was a cultist. Olumide died at a time when I was two months pregnant.

 I dropped out of school and, I as I speak, I’m a “baby mama”. The real problem is, I hardly fall in love. I now hate men. I just do whatever makes me happy. At some point, I had reckless sex with different men, smoked, drank, in short, I did some unthinkable things but they didn’t help. In fact, the last time I had sex, I screamed Olumide’s name and I was ashamed of myself. Please how do I stop loving the dead. I still see him in my dreams, and each time that happens, I get depressed. Please tell me what to do. I’m crying out to the world, I need help.

I’m Ife.

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Getting Along with A Mother-in-law: Based on Survey Responses

Recently, it has become a trend that most ladies now wish their mothers-in-law death. Usually, once a man is married, there is expected or envisaged battle of supremacy  over who now  owns the man—husband to the wife, son to the mother—by both  women in his life. Wives argue with an avalanche  of logical conclusions as to the fact that their husbands  now have immediate family responsibilities to attend to.

A quick survey  from an online feedback discussions generated on the The Cupids WhatsApp group gave these very interesting responses:

MOTHER-IN-LAW ISSUES

I’ve actually heard ladies saying they wish their mothers-in-law were dead so as to avoid having “mother-in-law issues”. And that's really soooooo bad☹☹.

Most guys going into marriage are ignorant of something: if your fiancée doesn't have a good relationship with her mother, don’t  expect her to have a good relationship with your mother.If the lady is not treating her mother right, she can't treat her mother-in-law right…. It's just not possible . That's when she would start preferring that her mother in-law is dead.
I believe marriage is not a child's play.  There are some things that should be seriously taken into consideration.  Most people overlook it, and say it doesn't matter but it actually does. ~~Chidinma from Owerri.

Chidinma seems to be a non-conformist. She totally  disagrees with the inventors of mother-in-law must die theory of marriage. Her reasons are plausible, why should anyone  wish to be married to a man whose mother is late in the first place, or at worse, wish her mother-in-law death?

MOTHERS-IN-LAW ARE WITCHES

The first time I heard it I was a teenager. My cousin’s girlfriend said it,  that she prayed before she got married her mother-in-law should die. I was shocked to my bones, and she said it in my room. I asked her why, she said, “some mothers-in-law are witches”.
Now, most mothers-in-law are very nice, good and caring while some are actually wicked and manipulative.
We have different types of men:

* Mummies’ boys
* Family bread winners,etc.

Under the family bread winner, we have the one who does the mum's bidding but the one that has a heart of his own, listens to the mum but let's her know his decision is final.

If you get married to family bread winner automatically, to a foolish mother-in-law, she has a competitor especially if the money and things she gets from her son is reducing or not forthcoming; forgetting that the son has more responsibilities trying to build a home and make the new wife comfortable and also recover from the expenses of paying bride price. Not considering all these, some mothers-in-law will visit the son or send a sibling to go find out why the son is “changing”. On getting there, they see lots of changes in the house that involve lots of money and get treated to nice meal. They(the mother’s spies) go back saying the wife Has taken the son from her(the mother). If she's the manipulative type she starts advising the son wrongly, telling him he married the wrong woman.
She schemes her way into collecting money from the son. The wife knowing how they are managing gets angry,if she's the foolish one she starts making unnecessary demand to collect money too. It becomes a war of who will win and who owns the man. He is torn apart,no more peace.

Now if the man dies the wife can have another husband but the mother will never have him back even if he has children.
Brothers advice your mothers,
Daughters tell your mothers the truth.Stop saying is love portion when your brother treats the wife well or buys her a car but if your husband does same is true love. ~~Sylvia from Benin

Wow, quite interesting  remark, isn’t it? What Sylvia does realize is the fact that some men are product of the family. Some men went to schools, got their first jobs as a result of family intervention. Wives should learn to apply wisdom in their own interests because whether they like it or not, mothers-in-law will still be the ones wives will turn to when the chips are down. Wives  today will be mothers-in-law tomorrow. Wives should  know this. What  goes around comes around.  Sylvia’s cousin’s friend said some mothers-in-law are witches. Well, I wish she doesn’t continue to harbour such thought because it will  definitely affect her. I pray her daughter-in-law doesn’t call her a witch.

In the same vein, men should also learn to deal with their wives and mothers on equal balance. Any attempt to treat one better than the other might lead to unnecessary bickering.

They should also find better ways of communicating to their mothers the business of their immediate families. I'm sure the mothers will understand.

MOTHERS-IN-LAW’S INTERFERENCE

Yah, that is because some mothers-in-law can be so difficult. Some always want to interfere in their son's marriage ~~Sthando from Lesotho.

Yes, every woman knows how to protect her own. Before you criticize your mother-in-law,wait until you become one.

AT RELATIONSHIP STAGE

Imagine your girlfriend  telling you she wishes to marry a man whose mother is dead when you know your mother is still alive, what would you do?  What is she suggesting? For me,  it’s a very perfect way of saying "I’m  breaking up with you because your mother is still alive."


Finally,  whoever invented this mothers-in-law must die theory should be glad she has influenced  a lot of women but should also be quick to backtrack because I’m sure she might be a baby-mama, a single lady or an unruly wife, not to mention being a widow.

Mothers-in-law should be prayed for. Attention must be taken as to knowing where not to cross the lines.  Wives must strike a balance between their rights and privileges and that if their mothers-in-law. They should treat them as they do their own mothers. Same goes to the mothers-in-law.

Moses Okere
© 2018.

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I watch My Dear Husband Engaging in Midnight Romance with His Pillows

Headnote: As days go by and nights fall, I watch my dear husband falling in love with his dreams, engaging in midnight romance with his pillows and establishing a cordial relationship with his bed, while I go out to work and fend for the family.

Dear Cupids,

 My heart bleeds, I don’t know how I married a couch potato. This is the first time I will ever come out to tell the world what I’ve been passing through. I was not supposed to marry Dare, I had for 7 years dated my ex-boyfriend, Jimmy. We were to be married but we realized I couldn’t be pregnant after several rounds of sex with Jimmy. We couldn’t explain the reason behind this. Our attention was not placed on it until we were ready to be married. We dissolved the relationship on mutual understanding. Jimmy went on to marry another woman.

Several years after Jimmy got married, I was still depending on him financially. Even though I work, I still depend on him as he’s wealthy. I regret letting him go because soon after he married another woman, he got her pregnant. I wondered why he couldn’t get me pregnant until my doctor told me there is a likelihood we were not compatible in terms of fertility. I certainly believe it’s a mystery the doctor himself cannot explain. Although, he told me my body must have produced antibodies that kill Jimmy’s spermatozoa.

I’m not ashamed to say this: Jimmy provided for my marriage, he single-handedly sponsored it. I was getting older, pressure from friends and family was on me to get married. That was when I met Dare. Dare was working at the time but he was underemployed. His remuneration was low, so he was thinking of starting his own enterprise. No one knew how we arrived at the bloated spending during our marriage, all thanks to Jimmy.

Six months after marrying Dare, I gave birth to my first baby but sadly Jimmy lost his wife. Cupids, this is where I need your help. Remember I told you Jimmy is my financier. He helps me every time I ask him for help. My husband is a drone, he sleeps days and nights. Jimmy has been resourceful and helpful but he has lived without a woman in his life for ten years. Lately, I have been having marital crisis. I now have two kids, Jimmy has three and you know what? Jimmy wants me to quit my marriage and marry him. Dare has been annoying, he now womanizes on loan. He doesn’t love me anymore. Please, I need your advice.

Thanks,

Sade.

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My Experience With a Husband Snatcher

Dear Cupids,

  I've seen young women leave their marriages because of littlest challenges and I’m inspired to share my story to advise young couples, especially women.
I’m 55 years old today and I can proudly say I’ve known only one man all my life. I started loving my husband since the days of “no beasts”. In those days, friends and well-wishers envied us as “little couple”. I grew up with my husband. A lot of people said we were naive. They accused us of early sexual intercourse but I can say hugely that we never made love until we got married. We were like the cow and its tail.
In our teenage years, my husband would go to the football field as a young man to play football. You dared not hurt him. Any attempt to hurt him on the field attracted huge sanctions from me. I cannot count the number of young men I fell out with because of Jerry.

 In 1978, I was just 15 at the time, my elder brother took me away after Jerry’s elder brother wanted to defile me. My family got to know about it and my brother took me away to Lagos. There were things that disqualified Jerry if we were to go by having the wherewithal of getting married. Jerry had absolutely nothing. He was 19 at the time. He hadn’t finished his secondary education. He had no job, no house, nothing whatsoever. When I was 19 years, Jerry still had nothing. Men of “timber and caliber “ were asking my hand in marriage. In fact, my brother had wanted to contract me with a very rich man—who died 3 years after I married Jerry—but I refused to marry him. To the glory of God, Jerry and I now have 6 children. We managed to build our home from nothing to something. We started from bottom all the way to the top.

After our marriage, Jerry got a job with NNPC--a well-paying job. Though, he was a casual staff, he earned well. Having worked with the company for several years, my husband(Jerry) was made a regular staff. His regularized appointment as a permanent staff was confirmed by his appointment letter. He was made a cashier in the same company. It was a moment of sharp turnaround for the family until the devil stroke through a woman. My husband was a Catholic before I took him to my church. He worshipped with us for 3 Sundays before he finally decided to join. In the church, he became a financial member. All the church needed was to ask for ecumenical support in cash and kind and my husband would donate hugely. I didn’t know that the woman who owned the church was observing my husband. She was studying my husband and my family with keen interest. She wanted to know what my husband does for a living, how his family was at the time, how he makes his money, etc. She also discovered how penetrable my family was, so she struck.

As an unsuspecting member of the church, I didn’t know what her motives were when she was becoming too close to my family. I took her as a spiritual leader who wanted the welfare of his members, so there was no cause for alarm. She got into my husband so much that my husband couldn’t do a thing without asking for her opinion. Later on, this woman seized my husband. Jerry stopped coming home. He was always in church after work. He didn’t bother to know how the children went to schools or how they were catered for. In short, he became irresponsible. “Woman of herself” had taken away my beloved husband. I cried! Friends and well wishers offered to take me to  witchdoctors to seek revenge, but I stood by one thing: “vengeance belongs to God”.

I settled it on my knees. Though, it cost Jerry his job, not his life. The woman manipulated my husband as a cashier to  bring her a huge sum of money, N20 million. Jerry sheepishly followed her command believing that the money would be used for business as the woman promised and the profit will be shared, while the capital,N20million, will be returned to the company. This devilish woman ran away with the money;put my husband in trouble. Company brought police and arrested my husband after laying him off from his job as a cashier. But, I didn’t stop praying. My husband was in prison for six months and I  cursed that evil woman. She died a miserable death. Before she died, she asked friends and family to beg me for forgiveness. I refused to make love to my husband after he was released from prison. Our penultimate daughter is 11 years older than our last son. After several years of pleading with me, my children joined him to ask me to forgive him. I’ve forgiven him. Today, he’s a pastor and my family is happy again. Our eldest daughter just got married in March this year. We are one big family once again.

I want to advise young ladies, the power of love is stronger than hurts. What you’re passing through today is nothing to be compared to what others have passed through. Patience, love and prayers will solve all problems of marriage.
Hang on, stay close to God and reclaim what belongs to you--your marriage.


Mrs. Juliana from Benin.

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I Beat My Wife to Pulps,No Apology

Dear Cupids,
  I had never beaten a woman in my life but as I speak with you, my wife made me a shameful boxer, I must admit, and she’s paying heavily for it as she’s receiving treatment in the hospital. She’s a lawyer but I don’t care what the outcome of assaulting her will be if she leaves the hospital. My wife has been overly domineering when it comes to family ties. She shares a bond with her extended family, which is acceptable, than she shares with my own extended family.

Four years ago, when she wasn’t working, she brought her younger brother to my house to stay. This boy was overly reckless with women. He brought women to my house. He smoked, drank and moved around in my wife’s kitchen, even my bedroom, without restriction. I alone was providing for the family at the time, which, of course, means the young man ate my food, spent my money, and lived like a king in my house. I wasn’t bothered. She brought her mother, I was also not bothered. I treated them like my family.

Two months ago, my mother was sick. I asked her to come to my house with my elder sister. This time, my wife has started working. She has started supporting me in running the family. I came back one day, and I saw my sister crying outside. My mother badly bruised. I asked my wife what had happened and she told me that my sister sat on the couch, COMMANDING her to serve her some meals. I asked my sister who was also beaten mercilessly by my wife. I had been observing some cold silence in my house each time I came back from work. No one told me anything about what was going on. I didn’t know my wife didn’t like the fact that my mother and my sister came to stay with us. Though, she had argued that I was bearing my father’s family problem on my shoulders, forsaking mine.

I quickly rushed my mother to the hospital and locked my wife inside our bedroom. I had to sort my mother out first before settling the scores with my wife. While I was on my way to the hospital, my sister told me all that had been happening since two weeks. I never knew. My wife forced my mother to cook her own meals when my sister wasn’t around. My elder sister used to cook all our meals but I didn’t know. My mother told my sister not to tell me about it because she didn’t want to cause commotion in my house.

What actually caused the problem was, my sick mother went to the toilet(visitors') but didn’t flush properly. My wife’s friend came visiting and wanted to use the toilet but it was messed up. I guess she jokingly,or how ever, told my wife. My wife insulted my mother before her friend. When my sister rebuked her, she gave her a merciless slap. A fight ensued afterwards, my mother and my sister were mercilessly beaten.

Cupids, I don’t want to kill someone. I really feel hurt breaking my principle. I really beat my wife to pulps. I had locked her in the bedroom. When I came back, as soon as I opened the door, a dirty slap landed on my face. It was a confirmation of what my sister told me. I beat the demon out of her. Please advise me. I am tired of the marriage. I want to quit.

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My Experience As a Relationship Counselor

Everyone needs someone to talk to, but the problem is, what is the confidentiality of the problem discussed with a supposed counselor? This has been the major problem. Another very serious issue is the fact that most people have premeditated positions regarding their problems before consulting a counselor. A lot of counselees mix reverie with reality. In their minds, they know what's ideal, that which is ideal to them is their greatest problem in relationships. Their failures to identify that IDEALS do not exist causes serious crisis in their lives, unknown to them.

I had two confrontations with two American women. These women came to me at separate times on the internet. One has visited Nigeria four times, the other hasn't.

The one who hasn't been to Nigeria  came to me online asking for a piece of advice concerning her boyfriend who lives in Nigeria. I asked her about the facts of the matter, which she made bare. After listening to her, I told her clearly,"this love isn't genuine". She got mad at me, deleted and blocked me. "Phewww! Moses, you've made a mistake," I said to myself at first but, I knew I couldn't be wrong. The young man was using the woman to arrange for his Visa. Anyway, I did my job.

The one who has been to Nigeria came to me, again online. This time around, I had identified my mistakes, I'd learnt my  lessons, you must put a frog in water and heat slowly in order to kill the frog . So, I started following her like a frog in a cold water. I knew the answer to her question, but I wanted her to journey with me to arrive at her answer. Time, of course, is the best teacher. It is like going to the hospital to treat a wound, if a doctor dresses the wound; gives you some anti-tetanus medicines and asks you to go home but come back for redressing, you will say the doctors doesn't know his job. But if he gives you a bed space in the hospital, writes loads of medicines for you and keeps you in the hospital until your wound heals, you'll say he's a fantastic doctor.

In the end, the woman discovered that she was used. She came back crying to me. I told her the truth this time around. It was  easier for her to assimilate. She agreed with me and now, we are bosom friends.

People want you to tell them what they want to hear. Unfortunately, life isn't a merry-go-round.

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One-day Sex: My Experience with Two Ladies.

Sex is an energy reducer. It requires a lot of energy. Energies released could also be traumatic. Most people rely on sex to stop them from thinking of a very painful experience. Don't make a mistake of thinking he or she loves you after having sex with him or her.

Three years ago, I was suffering from emotional breakdown. I pretended to be happy. I tried all I could to be happy, none worked for me. I resorted to sex. I met a lady on my way home, struck a conversation, she liked me as a person and before I could say "Jack Robinson" we were in bed. After the whole thing, the moment I said "I love you", that was the end. She disappeared into the thin air; deleted my number and moved on.

A year later, I met another girl inside a bus. We started talking, this time around, it was she who wanted the relief. I read the signs, I spoke some sweet words, flirted a little, she responded in the affirmative and I almost concluded. Well, I didn't want to make a mistake,I suggested to her," shall we go to my abode?" She said no at first; I read the looks in her eyes and the tone of her shaky voice, there was a yes in her no. So, I insisted and we landed in my bed. Again, the moment I said,"be my girlfriend", that was the last I heard from her.

It is important to identify that I could have continued to have sex with these ladies if I never uttered the words "I love you" or "be my girlfriend". Love is not sex, sex isn't love. This sounds like a cliché but its the simple truth. Sex, however, cements love. Learn to separate both.

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I'm Confused, Please What Do I Do?

Dear Cupids,
 I’ve read  some of your articles on your blog, thecupidshaven.blogspot.com, and I felt it will be nice writing you a letter. I honestly wish you will see this letter of mine.

I fell in love with a Nigerian after I lost my family to a ghastly fire outbreak. Every says am strong but…I know what I went through to get back to sanity. I lost my mind. I remarried after the incidence but my ex-husband was(still is) an imp in a grown man. As we speak, we still have a case in court on child support. He doesn’t want to sign the divorce papers either.
I met this fine, elegant, calm and collected Nigerian man on Facebook. We got talking and two months after, I got the spark that ignited my love for him; We started dating. One year later, I visited Nigeria and it was heaven on earth. I enjoyed my stay.  I had a beautiful family. My Nigerian man introduced every member of his family to me. He also introduced me to them.

I got back to America and things started changing, a woman from Nigeria contacted me. I have not met her before. She told me the shocking news of my life. One of the women my Nigerian man introduced to me as his auntie is actually his wife.

I’m dying in tears, I don’t want to believe this woman but everything she tells me seems to be true. Please help me, Cupids, what should I do? I don’t want to lose this Nigerian man. I don’t want to get hurt because I’ve been through a lot.

Jasmine, from IL,USA.

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Please help me, I'm Losing My Mind

Hello Cupids,
Please help me, am losing my mind. I have introduced 8 different men to my family since I turned 25, yet none agreed to marry me. I’m tired. Now, I’m in a relationship, at 32. This relationship seems like am started over again, I don’t know where it’s leading to.

I’m from a place called Ngwa in Abia state. I vowed to not be married to any Abia man. There’s this fable that really didn’t exist(still doesn’t happen). This fable has formed an irrational belief that all Ngwa people eat human beings. This was the cause of my problem. The men who agreed to marry me irrespective of where I come from, I don’t like them. Those whom I like, don’t like where I’m from.

Please help me tell the world that Ngwa people don’t eat human beings. We are humans. I’m tired of explaining. People say I’ve not found the right man, but 8 men altogether  is not a joke. Please, tell me what to do because am sinking into depression. Also, help me use your good platform to tell the world that Ngwa people don’t eat human beings.

Anonymous.

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Generation of Baby Mamas: 7 Causes of Its Steady Rise.

Growing up,I never heard the phrase “open relationship “, it was either you were in a relationship or not. It is saddening when people tell you “it’s complicated” when you ask about their relationship. These phrases are “catch phrases” when you narrow down the underlying reasons people, most especially women,  go into the business of baby mama.
Seven reasons justifying the growth rate of baby mamas abound. These reasons are discussed within the scope of what obtains in a sub-region of the sub-Saharan region of Africa—Nigeria.

1. Sexual Exchange for Money
This sounds like prostituting. Yes! It somewhat seems so. Nowadays, it is difficult to be in a relationship without asking for sex. This is because most women need money and most men need sex. Relationships these days are nothing short of sexual agreement between a man and a woman. If you refuse to have your fair share in terms of sex as a man in a relationship, you’re seen as a first class fool among your friends.

Women want to be treated like  queens. However, most men fear the fact that they might not be the king in their women’s lives. Most women also fear the “hit and  run” men. Therefore, the exchange of money for sex has dominated the relationship discourse.
 Love is relative. The definition of love is now gradually advancing to exchange of money for sex. When the contract of sex for money is lost, and the product of the transaction is a baby, then there is separation. People go to court for child support.

2. Real Life Pornography
Everywhere, on the streets of major cities, even villages, in Nigeria is littered with indecent and provocative dressing. Most ladies are going completely nude and men are becoming completely insane. Things that used to be on the TV screens are now in the full glare of the streets. This certainly leads to increase in sexual urge, not love, and people have sex recklessly. When they have money to spend and there is an available sexually inclined lady, unprotected sex takes place leading to unwanted pregnancy. It is important to state that unwanted pregnancy becomes wanted when the man involved is rich.
3. Rate of Heartbreak
There’s no gainsaying that the rate of heartbreak is growing across the world. So many people have subscribed to baby mama enterprise as they’ve experienced failed relationships.
Some persons who love to the extent of going the extra mile for their partners  submit themselves to pregnancies so as to be associated with the one they love. They want to bear children for the ones they love. They want their children to be of the blood of their partners. Oftentimes, they are disappointed. Their partners end up breaking their hearts, leaving them with their babies.

4. Gender Equality
The message of gender equality should be preached with careful efforts taken in order to restore sanity in our homes. Misleading messages of gender equality have caused total breakdown of order in various families. It is true that men abuse their privileges but it is advisable to not preach the message of gender equality with the aim of causing commotion in families,unknowingly. Every man needs his wife to be submissive. Even though, some men have abused their privileges as men, it is important to state clearly that when a home is headed by two persons, there’s bound to be commotion due largely to clash of interests. Yes, every man and woman should be accorded equal opportunities, equal rights and justices. Nonetheless, this should not be  done to the detriment of orderliness, peace and harmony in the family. Most feminists who champion the gender equality course are largely unmarried. Those who are married pay lip services to the course. Check their homes; they are submissive o their husbands.

5. Socioeconomic status

The socioeconomic status of a man is important in every marriage. Some marriages are dissolved today because the men who used to provide for the family no longer do. Their impatient wives may seek a dissolution of the marriages based on irresponsibility. When this happens, the women become a baby mamas; child support becomes the order of the day.

6. Failed Parenting

Some parents fail to teach their children about sex education. In fact, most of the things learnt by their children are things they learnt from their mates. So, they try their hands on so many sexual adventures. The result however is unwanted pregnancy. Therefore, you find a baby mama living with her parents still single; either ready to mingle or searching.

7. Wrong Choice of Partner

The worse thing that can happen to anyone is to be married to the wrong person. The price to be paid is of a lifetime. When a woman marries a man who womanizes, smokes and drinks profusely to the extent that he forgets his responsibilities,she pays for it for the rest of her life. In the days of yore, mothers stayed back in their marriages for the sake of their children. Unfortunately, these days, mothers will run away with their children. It is advisable to run away because it is better to stay alive than to die in a failed marriage. Even if one must pray, one must do that after staying alive. Heaven helps those who help themselves.

Moses Okere
©2018.

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PLEASE, SAVE ME FROM SUICIDE

Sir,
 My life is in shreds. I’ve lost some sense of morality. Severally have I contemplated suicide, last week being the last time I tried. I don’t believe I deserve to be forgiven.
This is my story: I’m a young woman in my mid 30s. I got married to a man who’s 55 years old. My husband is loving and caring. He’s in touch with current realities. He’s young in limb but in judgment he’s old. However, he travels a lot. Sometimes, I travel with him. We were the best couple in our vicinity.

My husband met me after he lost his wife. He has a son—the son of his late wife. He told me his story. I accepted him because he told me the truth. I never loved him at first; I wanted to make him my financier. I deceived him for 2 years. However, he got me straight into his warmth arms when my ex-boyfriend broke my heart. All my friends advised me to accept him(my husband). They liked him regardless of his age. At that moment he told me he knew I never loved him; he knew I had an active boyfriend yet he kept pushing, I fell head-over-heels in love with him.

We got married after  3 years—2 years of fake relationship, 1 year of courtship—because I wasn’t too sure. On the day of our wedding, my husband’s mother brought his son, he looked like my ex-boyfriend. I was shocked, but it was my wedding day, I didn’t need any distraction.

After the wedding, everything was settling down. Friends and families  left. I was to settle in in my new home as we had plans to travel to Paris for our honeymoon. 2 weeks after our honeymoon, we returned  to Nigeria. My husband brought back his son who stays with his mother(my husband’s mother). His son normally lives with my mother-in-law. Now, he(his son) is to stay with us since his dad(my husband) is remarried. We stay for 5 months and I started having some crazy feelings for the boy. He is 20 and well grown, muscular, tall and good looking. Again,he looks like my ex-boyfriend. We had a fight one day and I like the fact that he touched me. I later went to his room to plead with him to forgive me. As we were fighting, he saw some private parts of me. I think he liked it. 2 days later, I took his meal to his room, his father had traveled. We were both drunk because I took his meal with a bottle of alcoholic wine. And…we made love.

 I’m not perfect. I know anyone who hears this story will blame me. This is the reason I need help. I later discovered that the boy I made love to several times I refused traveling with his father(my husband) is the son of my ex-boyfriend. My husband’s late wife was my ex-boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend back in secondary school days. My ex-boyfriend is the biological father of the boy I made love to. My husband caught me and the young man after a tip off by the gatekeeper. He sent the young man back to his biological father—my ex-boyfriend. I’m currently with my  parents. Urghhh, I just need  help.
Please help me.

Anonymous.

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15 Step-By-Step Ways of Healing a Heartbreak

Introduction:

  A once bubbling and spirited heart becomes demoralized, shattered and battered at the strike of a heartbreak. After building blocks of expectations, dreams and beautiful fantasies with the one you love, a decisive, deliberate and conscious effort tilted largely towards breaking your heart is an approval of a suicidal letter. 

Like a dismal situation not envisaged, there is a clash of sound judgment with stupidity which heartbreak brings. This article seeks to present 15 excellent ways of healing a heartbreak.

1.     Self-rediscovery

Oftentimes, heartbreaks thrust intelligent persons off balanced. For instance, a beautiful woman becomes unarguably hideous because of heartbreaks. The earth merges at its horizon with the sky when there is a heartbreak. You lose hope, and breakdown, when the one you call your number one, believing he equally sees you in that light, brings someone totally out of the picture into that-so-special world you share with him. It becomes even worse when the person in question isn’t your equal in anyway. If he or she is finer, more intelligent, richer and smarter than you, you literally wish you were dead. One of the best ways to heal is to believe in yourself. Believing in yourself means that you must know your self-worth, develop your self-esteem and know who you truly are. Heartbreaks usually make people rediscover themselves. Find out what you do that makes people love you. Look at yourself and discover what you love about yourself.  There something that makes you unique. You are different. Discover that beautiful thing about you and make it your strength.

2.     Self-reorientation

 Now that you have known what your self-worth is, it is time to reorient yourself. Ascertain where you were yesterday, you are now, where you want to be tomorrow. Understand that your past must remain in the past. Tell yourself the truth, what did you do in the past to deserve a heartbreak? What did you do to keep the relationship which didn’t work? Now, know that not all expectations can or will be met. Know that when expectations are dashed, you should learn to handle the outcome. Define your direction based on your experience.

3.     Rechannel Your Energy

Heartbreak marries itself with thoughts of beautiful pasts, empty promises and fantasies to cause serious emotional breakdown. Energies expended in these thoughts decimate the heart  greatly. It is recommended however that these energies should be rechanneled to things that make you happy. What are those things you love doing best? Those things which are most rewarding, things you do naturally and effortlessly and you become happy about them should be where your energies are channeled. Quit forming unnecessary pictures of the past and be focused on where you want to be. It is never too late.

4.     Socialize Positively

You must learn to have people around you. You should not be lonely. Hey! this is not the time to think of a failed relationship, it is not a time for debauchery. It is a time to socialize. Reasonable associate may beget reasonable communication which may in turn help you to get out of your current situation.  Learn not to be alone at this point in time and space, it is dangerous.

5.     Learn New Skills

This is the best time to learn new skills. Skills learnt emotionally is usually topnotch. When you channel your energies to learning new skills in a bid to forget past hurts you tend to learn the skills better. In short, it makes you become a better version of you. It also reinforces your confidence.

6.     Upgrade Your Quality

After skill acquisition, what follows is capacity building. You build your capacity by attending seminars, reading books, developing and practicing new skills. Practice guarantees mastery. Listening to resource persons who have better knowledge and satisfactory experience in your desired area of learning goes a long way to help you to heal quickly. Remember, this action must be deliberate. You must realize that your ex-partner isn’t the best you can get in life. Therefore, this is a way of preparing yourself for the best person. 

7.     Unlearn and Relearn How to Love

You should at this point learn to drop some of your former ways of loving and relearn how to love. Reduce your jealousy. Understand what is important and what’s not. Understand your goals in the relationship and, above all, learn to be at peace with yourself.

8.     Meet New Folks

Meeting new reliable and friendly folks goes a long way to heal a heartbreak. Meet new friends, break out from your friend circle and make friend with people of higher knowledge, wisdom and understanding. It is not bad to be with people of great influence and wealth, even if they turn you down. Remember, your focus is becoming a better you.

9.     Discuss Your Hurts

Discussing your hurts makes you release your unwanted energies. While discussing, be careful to know time wasters and mockers. Share your thoughts with those who can give you candid and dispassionate opinions.

10.     Stay Happy

Stay happy. Do all you can to stay happy. Do not let anyone take your joy away. Cherish your joy, embrace your happiness. Again, do whatever makes you happy.

11.     Repress Unwanted Flashbacks

Please do all within your power to repress unwanted flashbacks. Flashbacks will crawl back into your heart occasionally but you must push it back by redoing one, two or all of the steps above. Essentially, step 4 above should be reengaged if flashbacks come.

12.     Travel

Traveling is a way of learning. Traveling helps to reduce thoughts. Seeing beautiful places helps to form beautiful memories. These memories have a tendency of removing or reducing old ones. It is also a way of learning a new way of life as well as meeting new people. It helps to know how different people think and act differently. This will help you to appreciate humanity better.

13.     Try Loving again

Yes! You should learn to love again. You don’t want to lose touch with new ways of doing things in a relationship. You want to stay updated. Therefore, you must try to love again.

14.     See Mistakes as a Way of Learning

in loving again, it is important to state that you’re bound to make mistakes. These mistakes are not to mar you, because you’re now a better you. Make that mistake to make you a better learner. This is not to encourage deliberate mistakes; it is to acquaint you with the dimensions of love.

15.     Always Get a Good Sleep

 Most times, the brain is reset when we sleep. A good sleep helps to reduce some thoughts when we wake up. Some people try to go to bed after a serious heartbreak by inducing themselves with sedatives. This is not recommended. There are many ways to get some sleep when one is suffering from heartbreaks. However, instead of drinking alcohol, smoking or engaging in some excessive indulgence in drugs, it is advisable to get a good rest. Before applying all the methods suggested above. Also, It is good to cry out all the hurts and get a sweet sleep.

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In Love with a Foe

In Love with a Foe

As everyone sets out in the course of life, no one seems to have a handbook on whom to meet as a life-partner. Love meets everyone at the pathway of life. The course of love takes a different bearing. Its dimension is certainly not definitive. Falling in love requires certain principles. Nonetheless, principles have failed on the floor of human unpredictability. Many have made what they call mistakes. While some live with their mistakes,others go down the grave with their mistakes hanging vehemently on their necks.

Oftentimes has it been said that one with bad character may remain bad or even become worse throughout one’s lifetime. Therefore, charging a man or a woman requires a lot of energy and conscious efforts. And because every confession of love doesn’t start with fisticuffs, it is amazing how love become absolute hatred.

Having counseled for some years now, I have had cause to run for my life after failed attempts to settle a fight turned into a fierce fight between men and their wives. At last, when they came back to me for advice, I recommended divorce. Yes, it is better than death. I say so because living with a foe is quite dangerous. Someone may ask, Moses, why do you want them to divorce? The answer is simple. It is better to separate them from each other than to have them kill themselves—the man has a chance of stabbing the woman to death; the woman may poison her husband’s meal.
An enemy in love is a pathway to death. Domestic violence is a handy tool for domestic deaths. The struggle for supremacy in families becomes fiercer when one marries an uncompromising enemy. The house is often hot.

 Majorly,parenting and upbringing are the  causes of domestic violence. Yes, I know you may ask why. It is only natural for a child to do what he sees his parents do. Most children don’t just talk without using their hands. Yes, they took after their warring parents. In fact, if they want to say "stop talking", before they say “stop”, they’ve dealt a slap on the recipient's face.



Speaking of running away for my life, a woman once invited me to settle the dispute between she and her husband. On arriving their home, before I could ask them to narrate their stories, an argument ensued. And what followed were broken bottles. I ran away. A person who uses weapons before an argument ensues should be stayed away from completely. There is no need trying to make it work. Quit the marriage, take your time and correct your mistake. This is absolutely recommended.

Moses Okere
©2018.

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