15 Step-By-Step Ways of Healing a Heartbreak

Introduction:

  A once bubbling and spirited heart becomes demoralized, shattered and battered at the strike of a heartbreak. After building blocks of expectations, dreams and beautiful fantasies with the one you love, a decisive, deliberate and conscious effort tilted largely towards breaking your heart is an approval of a suicidal letter. 

Like a dismal situation not envisaged, there is a clash of sound judgment with stupidity which heartbreak brings. This article seeks to present 15 excellent ways of healing a heartbreak.

1.     Self-rediscovery

Oftentimes, heartbreaks thrust intelligent persons off balanced. For instance, a beautiful woman becomes unarguably hideous because of heartbreaks. The earth merges at its horizon with the sky when there is a heartbreak. You lose hope, and breakdown, when the one you call your number one, believing he equally sees you in that light, brings someone totally out of the picture into that-so-special world you share with him. It becomes even worse when the person in question isn’t your equal in anyway. If he or she is finer, more intelligent, richer and smarter than you, you literally wish you were dead. One of the best ways to heal is to believe in yourself. Believing in yourself means that you must know your self-worth, develop your self-esteem and know who you truly are. Heartbreaks usually make people rediscover themselves. Find out what you do that makes people love you. Look at yourself and discover what you love about yourself.  There something that makes you unique. You are different. Discover that beautiful thing about you and make it your strength.

2.     Self-reorientation

 Now that you have known what your self-worth is, it is time to reorient yourself. Ascertain where you were yesterday, you are now, where you want to be tomorrow. Understand that your past must remain in the past. Tell yourself the truth, what did you do in the past to deserve a heartbreak? What did you do to keep the relationship which didn’t work? Now, know that not all expectations can or will be met. Know that when expectations are dashed, you should learn to handle the outcome. Define your direction based on your experience.

3.     Rechannel Your Energy

Heartbreak marries itself with thoughts of beautiful pasts, empty promises and fantasies to cause serious emotional breakdown. Energies expended in these thoughts decimate the heart  greatly. It is recommended however that these energies should be rechanneled to things that make you happy. What are those things you love doing best? Those things which are most rewarding, things you do naturally and effortlessly and you become happy about them should be where your energies are channeled. Quit forming unnecessary pictures of the past and be focused on where you want to be. It is never too late.

4.     Socialize Positively

You must learn to have people around you. You should not be lonely. Hey! this is not the time to think of a failed relationship, it is not a time for debauchery. It is a time to socialize. Reasonable associate may beget reasonable communication which may in turn help you to get out of your current situation.  Learn not to be alone at this point in time and space, it is dangerous.

5.     Learn New Skills

This is the best time to learn new skills. Skills learnt emotionally is usually topnotch. When you channel your energies to learning new skills in a bid to forget past hurts you tend to learn the skills better. In short, it makes you become a better version of you. It also reinforces your confidence.

6.     Upgrade Your Quality

After skill acquisition, what follows is capacity building. You build your capacity by attending seminars, reading books, developing and practicing new skills. Practice guarantees mastery. Listening to resource persons who have better knowledge and satisfactory experience in your desired area of learning goes a long way to help you to heal quickly. Remember, this action must be deliberate. You must realize that your ex-partner isn’t the best you can get in life. Therefore, this is a way of preparing yourself for the best person. 

7.     Unlearn and Relearn How to Love

You should at this point learn to drop some of your former ways of loving and relearn how to love. Reduce your jealousy. Understand what is important and what’s not. Understand your goals in the relationship and, above all, learn to be at peace with yourself.

8.     Meet New Folks

Meeting new reliable and friendly folks goes a long way to heal a heartbreak. Meet new friends, break out from your friend circle and make friend with people of higher knowledge, wisdom and understanding. It is not bad to be with people of great influence and wealth, even if they turn you down. Remember, your focus is becoming a better you.

9.     Discuss Your Hurts

Discussing your hurts makes you release your unwanted energies. While discussing, be careful to know time wasters and mockers. Share your thoughts with those who can give you candid and dispassionate opinions.

10.     Stay Happy

Stay happy. Do all you can to stay happy. Do not let anyone take your joy away. Cherish your joy, embrace your happiness. Again, do whatever makes you happy.

11.     Repress Unwanted Flashbacks

Please do all within your power to repress unwanted flashbacks. Flashbacks will crawl back into your heart occasionally but you must push it back by redoing one, two or all of the steps above. Essentially, step 4 above should be reengaged if flashbacks come.

12.     Travel

Traveling is a way of learning. Traveling helps to reduce thoughts. Seeing beautiful places helps to form beautiful memories. These memories have a tendency of removing or reducing old ones. It is also a way of learning a new way of life as well as meeting new people. It helps to know how different people think and act differently. This will help you to appreciate humanity better.

13.     Try Loving again

Yes! You should learn to love again. You don’t want to lose touch with new ways of doing things in a relationship. You want to stay updated. Therefore, you must try to love again.

14.     See Mistakes as a Way of Learning

in loving again, it is important to state that you’re bound to make mistakes. These mistakes are not to mar you, because you’re now a better you. Make that mistake to make you a better learner. This is not to encourage deliberate mistakes; it is to acquaint you with the dimensions of love.

15.     Always Get a Good Sleep

 Most times, the brain is reset when we sleep. A good sleep helps to reduce some thoughts when we wake up. Some people try to go to bed after a serious heartbreak by inducing themselves with sedatives. This is not recommended. There are many ways to get some sleep when one is suffering from heartbreaks. However, instead of drinking alcohol, smoking or engaging in some excessive indulgence in drugs, it is advisable to get a good rest. Before applying all the methods suggested above. Also, It is good to cry out all the hurts and get a sweet sleep.

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