Everyone needs someone to talk to, but the problem is, what is the confidentiality of the problem discussed with a supposed counselor? This has been the major problem. Another very serious issue is the fact that most people have premeditated positions regarding their problems before consulting a counselor. A lot of counselees mix reverie with reality. In their minds, they know what's ideal, that which is ideal to them is their greatest problem in relationships. Their failures to identify that IDEALS do not exist causes serious crisis in their lives, unknown to them.
I had two confrontations with two American women. These women came to me at separate times on the internet. One has visited Nigeria four times, the other hasn't.
The one who hasn't been to Nigeria came to me online asking for a piece of advice concerning her boyfriend who lives in Nigeria. I asked her about the facts of the matter, which she made bare. After listening to her, I told her clearly,"this love isn't genuine". She got mad at me, deleted and blocked me. "Phewww! Moses, you've made a mistake," I said to myself at first but, I knew I couldn't be wrong. The young man was using the woman to arrange for his Visa. Anyway, I did my job.
The one who has been to Nigeria came to me, again online. This time around, I had identified my mistakes, I'd learnt my lessons, you must put a frog in water and heat slowly in order to kill the frog . So, I started following her like a frog in a cold water. I knew the answer to her question, but I wanted her to journey with me to arrive at her answer. Time, of course, is the best teacher. It is like going to the hospital to treat a wound, if a doctor dresses the wound; gives you some anti-tetanus medicines and asks you to go home but come back for redressing, you will say the doctors doesn't know his job. But if he gives you a bed space in the hospital, writes loads of medicines for you and keeps you in the hospital until your wound heals, you'll say he's a fantastic doctor.
In the end, the woman discovered that she was used. She came back crying to me. I told her the truth this time around. It was easier for her to assimilate. She agreed with me and now, we are bosom friends.
People want you to tell them what they want to hear. Unfortunately, life isn't a merry-go-round.
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