Help, My Ex is About to Ruin My Marriage

 
   Hi there, I need your help. My ex-girlfriend is about to rip my marriage into shreds. I met her in a club, to be honest. I loved her because, at the time, she satisfied my sexual strength. She is adventurous when it comes to love-making,I must confess. One thing I didn’t like about her was, she smoked too much.

 For some reasons I distanced myself from her since I couldn’t cope with her continuous smoking spree. Honestly, I’m now a repentant alcoholic. I discussed her smoking penchant with her but she didn’t want to give up her learned habit. In short, she was an addict. She got pregnant but we found a way to get rid of it because I was convinced she wouldn’t  be my wife. She insisted on keeping the baby but I prevailed with superior argument because our socio-economic statuses at the time were something to worry about.

Five years after I distanced myself from her,luckily, I met my wife. We dated for 4 months and we decided to seal it with a ring, firstly at the court; then the church afterwards. On the day of our court wedding, I thought it was a mirage when I saw my ex. It felt like I was dreaming, only that I couldn’t wake up. She was wearing her wedding gown. My heart sank into my bowels as I had thought she had come to be wedded to me. I thought she was going to disrupt my wedding by asking the officiating officer to wed the three of us—my ex-girlfriend, my wife and I.

A few hours later, her would-be husband showed up. I was glad. I  was calm. We wedded on the same day. I didn’t know my wife was watching my uneasiness. The greatest thing that  beat my imagination was the fact that my wife knows my ex-girlfriend. She was her classmate in secondary school. I almost melted when she asked me,”why were you staring at her, have you met?” I was shocked when they started exchanging numbers and pleasantries.

My marriage is now in a mess after that encounter. She has told my wife everything. My wife now sees me as a bad man. She’s afraid to make love to me. She’s thinking of a divorce already. My wife says if I could associate myself with her classmate who was known as “runs girl” even at secondary school age, then I must be a bad man. How do I convince her that all that happened in my past. How do I tell her I’m a changed man? She argued that I should have married

her instead, after impregnating her. Please help me.